Words of Wisdom for My Adult Child Living at Home
- Chris Theisen
- Jan 9
- 2 min read
Living at home as an adult can be a gift—for both of us. It’s a season of transition, growth, and preparation for what comes next. You’re building independence while still having a safety net, and that’s nothing to be ashamed of. From one parent who wants to see you thrive, here are a few pieces of hard-earned wisdom to help you navigate this chapter of life with intention and confidence.
Choose your friends and social circle wisely
The people you spend the most time with will influence your habits, mindset, and direction—often more than you realize. Look for friends who encourage growth, take responsibility for their lives, and respect your goals. It’s okay to outgrow people; it’s part of becoming yourself.
Be careful what you post on social media
The internet has a long memory. Before you post, ask yourself if you’d be comfortable with an employer, partner, or future version of yourself seeing it. Share thoughtfully, protect your privacy, and remember that your real life matters more than your online one.
Take your health seriously—now, not later
Keep up with regular check-ups, dental visits, and mental health care. Don’t ignore small issues or assume you’re “too young” for problems. Building healthy habits now will save you time, money, and stress down the road.
Avoid getting a pet before you’re truly ready
Pets are wonderful—but they are also a long-term commitment of time, money, and emotional energy. Make sure your lifestyle, finances, and future plans can support that responsibility before bringing another life into the mix.
Learn how to manage your money—even if you don’t have much yet
Budgeting, saving, paying bills on time, and understanding credit are life skills, not personality traits. Start where you are. Good financial habits matter more than how much you make at the beginning.
Pull your weight at home
Living at home doesn’t mean reverting to childhood. Clean up after yourself, contribute to chores, and respect shared spaces. These habits prepare you for future roommates, partners, and independence.
Don’t compare your timeline to anyone else’s
Some people marry early. Some find their career later. Some do both—or neither. Life isn’t a race, and there’s no single “right” schedule. Focus on progress, not comparison.
Be willing to do boring or uncomfortable work
Not every step forward is exciting. Sometimes growth looks like routine, rejection, or patience. Showing up consistently—especially when it’s not glamorous—is how trust, skills, and confidence are built.
Ask for help, but take responsibility
There’s strength in asking questions and learning from others. At the same time, own your choices and their outcomes. Accountability is a cornerstone of adulthood.
Remember that this chapter is temporary—and purposeful
Living at home isn’t a failure; it’s a foundation. Use this time to learn, save, heal, plan, and grow. The goal isn’t to stay forever—it’s to leave prepared.
No matter how old you get, my hope is that you build a life that feels steady, meaningful, and true to who you are. I may offer advice, but the life is yours to live—and I believe in your ability to do it well.
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